How to Make Your Child Listen

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When it comes to parenting, there are many joys, but fair amount of hardships too.

Whether it is passing a frustrated mother in a grocery store, saying through gritted teeth, “why won’t you listen to me?” to her child. Or, trying to get your darling child to leave the playground of friends – a near impossible task.

Understanding how to make your child listen to you not only helps their growth, but your frustration levels, and embarrassment, in many situations.

So, we have rounded up our top tips on how to make your child listen:

  • Be on their level. Bending down and making eye contact ensures they are engaged and their attention is on you. This helps reduce distractions and teaches good communication skills.
  • Do away with negative words. Words such as “don’t“ force a child to double process by having to understanding what not to do, and understand what they should do instead.
  • Shorten your answers. Parents often back up their answers with a longer reason to validate their response. A child generally switches off after “no”. Shortening your response ensures you still have their attention.
  • Ensure your child has comprehended what you have said by asking them to repeat it back to you.
  • Noticing behaviour you have previously asked for carried through, needs to be acknowledged for the child to feel their job was appreciated.  “Thank you for packing your toys away”.
  • Empower your child.  Instead of saying “put your toys away”, change it to “someone could get hurt if they trip over your toys”. This changes the child‘s way of thinking and understanding about the request to tidy up.
  • State your expectations ahead of time. Instead if telling your child they’ve played outside long enough, tell them ahead of time they can play outside until you’ve finished making dinner.

There is no perfect way on how to make your child listen, and all children will respond differently. Trying these will help keep their attention while talking, and help them understand the requests, rather than just being a “bossy” parent.